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Infidelity, sex, anger, communication problems, addictions — all can contribute to distress in marriages or other relationships. Relationship counselling can help resolve conflicts and heal wounds.

Couples therapy, helps couples understand and resolve conflicts and improve their relationship. It gives you the tools to grow your relationship in a resourceful way and allow both people to be all that they can be.

Couples therapy can be short term and may require only a few sessions to help you weather a crisis. If however your relationship has greatly deteriorated you may need several sessions. You will have options presented to you at your initial session about how these steps will unfold.

Perhaps your partner comes home from work, makes a beeline for the liquor cabinet and then sulks off silently?
Maybe you haven’t had a real conversation for weeks? Maybe a few arguments over money or late nights,but no heartfelt honest conversation.

Sex? What’s that?

Your relationship is on the rocks, and you both know it. But you aren’t sure how to fix things — or if you really want to.
It may be time to talk. Couples therapy can help you rebuild your relationship or perhaps you will decide that you’ll both be better off if you split up. Either way we can help you understand your relationship better and make well-thought-out decisions.

We provide a welcoming environment to help you work through your issues at a pace that suits you.

Individual therapy is available for clients of all ages. We have experience working with teenagers through to people at the later stages of life. Individual counselling facilitates the exploration and resolution of personal problems and issues according to the needs of the individual.

We are trained in both brief and long-term therapy and draw from many different theoretical perspectives.

Our subsidiary MensTalk is solely focused on Mens issues and details can be found on our website.

When a number of people were interviewed about who was the best counsellor for them or what modality was the best, the unanimous response was “it is about the relationship”…

If we can develop the rapport in safe and trusting environment we quite frankly have half the job done. From here the range of strategies and techniques vary depending on the client and the presenting issue; however, the key to the success in our work is in enabling the client to be self sufficient and to believe in their ability to be the author of their own lives. We have personally seen the ill effects of working to a strategy that is driven by the client or the referring clinician and know that timing to any intervention is more important than what technique is used. If you would like client information passed back to you to enhance the work you are doing with them please have the client request us to do so as client confidentiality is paramount.

You have heard the saying “you can lead a horse to water…” however the reality is that people will only come to speak to a counsellor if they have some or all of the following criteria met:

1. The person acknowledges they have an issue
2. They trust the referrer or the person they are seeing
3. They can afford the time and cost
4. They believe it is worth their while

Anger is most always a secondary feeling for men, and core to our work in anger management is helping them understand the underlying issues that are motivating the anger…

Contrary to popular beliefs, men are very capable of naming feelings; however, linking those feelings to from head to heart is often challenging and a skill that is rarely developed in their childhood. We focus around linking Body, feelings and mind to assist them in understanding how they move from one state of mind to another and thereby enabling them to have control over their affect. We utilises proven international strategies from the USA, UK and New Zealand in addressing key skills and combine them with a toolbox of strategies to get the results they are looking for. Often 8 to 10 sessions will be enough to create lifelong changes in attitudes and habits.

In a recent survey it was found that the stress caused by money worries also has a damaging effect on many people’s sex drive. 

62% of respondents reported that they are not having enough sex and that stress is one of the main reasons.

Not surprisingly in the current economic climate, stress about financial issues topped the list for 64% of the participants, concurrent with concern about the dire state of the economy. For 40% of the people surveyed stress about work was also a major factor. While only 30% said it was stress about their actual relationship that was causing the problems with sex.

Now for some science; the hypothalamus is the part of the brain that links the nervous system to the endocrine system via the pituitary gland. Put simply it is a bridge that links emotional messages (e.g. stress) to physical responses (e.g. sex drive). As it regulates both stress responses and sex hormones it is easy to understand the link. 

”Sex is just as much about what happens in the mind as below the belt.” Says Denise Collins of The Hummingbird Effect, “For most people, the bigger their stress levels the less sex they will be having. There are many relatively simple things that people can do to effectively manage their stress and thereby improve both the frequency of the sex they want and the satisfaction gained from it.”

“Sex itself can be a great antidote to stress. There is, however, an interesting paradox. For some people, (especially men) they may actually seek more sex if feeling very stressed, in an attempt to rapidly change their mental and emotional state. While this can appear to offer a short term solution, if the actual stress response and the issues causing it are left unaddressed, this quick fix to feel good might actually damage the long term health of their relationships.

While sex can be a great stress buster, if they are attempting to use sex in a similar way to say drugs or alcohol it can become destructive.

While stress is a normal physiological response, if prolonged it can be dangerous to our physical as well as our psychological well being. It is not only our sex lives that suffer as a result of negative stress, recent research indicates that between 60 to 90% of all illness is directly related to stress. And not just the obvious conditions such as depression but also physical conditions like angina, high blood pressure, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, asthma, muscular aches and pains, even lowered resistance to infections and cancer.

Over the past few months we have been talking with many health professionals about a more integrated approach to healing and an easier access of a range of holistic services. We have been fascinated with the enthusiastic response we have received and the depth of conversations that have ensued.
Key feedback to us in these conversations is the understanding that there is no one organisation or person that has an in-depth understanding of all the potential ways in which a person can either regain health or improve their health. What was well understood however was, that one way in which we can grow as professionals and give the best service to our clients was by networking and gaining a better understanding of what we all do. Armed with this understanding we can make considered and valuable referrals to assist our clients when they most need it.
There are so many health professionals out there that I for one have trouble knowing who is the best person to refer a client to. Is their issue limited to their body, their thoughts or their feelings? …..Of course it will be a combination as each impacts upon the other.
Next quarter we will include some articles or case studies of how an integrated approach can be useful for our clients and I would love to hear about your experiences as practitioners as to how you have seen this work. So, put your thinking caps on for a case study or perhaps you have your own story to share with us all!
Thank you for your encouragement, words of wisdom and collegial support.

If you believed all the advertisements on television around erectile dysfunction (ED) you may be inclined to think it was a purely mechanical issue….

Well, we believe there is a place for pharmacological interventions; however not as the panacea for all problems. We often say that for men their penis is like a barometer…strange but often true…that when their inner world meaning making is in conflict with their outer world experiences the barometer goes down. Typical examples of ED issues that are psychologically based might be; financial, relationship, stress, anxiety, depression, addictions etc…

The first thing we assure men is that this is a normal reaction to stress and not a disability to focus on. Remember, your thoughts manifest in your outer world. Our focus is on what is happening in their lives that may be causing stress and address that. We address key areas such as core constructs and belief systems, food, exercise, relationships, drugs and alcohol and work from there.

We always check ourselves on the ecology of our interventions as it’s not just about treating the symptoms. It’s about treating the underlying issue and understanding that this person has relationships with other people who also have needs and desires. This is often where we encourage the client to bring in their partner to talk through the bigger issues that exist for them both.